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Boundaries

• How to Deal With Passive-Aggressive People (Without Losing Your Mind)
• Assert Yourself for You, Not for Approval or Control
• Healthy Boundaries Are as Much for You as They Are for Everyone Else
• Healthy Boundaries in Supporting a Partner’s Mental Health
• More Authentic Yes is Great for Our Body’s Stress Levels
• Beware Being An Emotional Dumpster or Airbag and Know Your Limits
• Having Needs and Boundaries Doesn’t Make You a Bad Person
• Healthier Boundaries Allow You To Express Your Authentic Self
• The Power of Saying “Yes” and “No”: More Authenticity Creates Healthy Boundaries
• Boundaries and Why You Need to Watch Out for “Well-Meaning” People
• Trying to Make Someone Change Won’t Fix the Problem of Poor Boundaries
• It’s Most Definitely Not Your Job to Make a Romantic Partner Commit
• Not Reciprocating Romantic Interest Is Okay but Dropping Hints Extends the Awkwardness
• About giving second chances because you think your boundaries are ‘better’
• If you weren’t super busy or overwhelmed, would your ‘no’ change to a ‘yes’?
• Here’s why you have no time and are overcommitted, overloaded or overwhelmed
• Saying Yes Requires Discernment if We Are to Enjoy Genuine Opportunities
• We Can Unlearn Our Anxiety About Other People’s Moods and Behaviour
• It will take more than one attempt to communicate your boundaries. Keep going!
• Is It That Work Doesn’t Allow You to Have Boundaries or That *You* Don’t?
• Why ignore your ‘life data’ when you can utilise it and take care of you?
• Please Don’t Wait Around for People to Do the Right Thing by You
• Don’t Explain Someone’s Disrespectful Behaviour to Them
• Worrying About Being Overzealous and Going Overboard With Your Boundaries
• Take responsibility for evolving your boundaries, not for other people’s behaviour
• What Does It Mean to Have ‘Healthy Work Boundaries’?
• ‘Hard nos’ are crucial for people who don’t respect your first no
• We can express our anger and frustration at work *without* being intimidating
• Your Growth or Boundaries Might ‘Upset’ Somebody, and That’s Ok
• How to say no when you don’t have the bandwidth to say yes
• 10 Signs That You Want To Say No To Something You’ve Already Said Yes To
• Quick Chats, Little Favours, and ‘Can I Pick Your Brain?’
• How to use feeling uncomfortable to set better boundaries
• Don’t confuse empathy with playing a role of accommodation and overcompensation
• Putting people on pedestals doesn’t give us the right to ‘compensation’
• Boundaries and why we’ve got to stop ‘counting to three’
• Giving To Get Along
• Boundaries and the messages contained in discomfort
• People Pleasing and the Fear of ‘Inconveniencing’ Others
• We ignore red flags and our intuition because we want the fantasy
• How To Say No To Festive Invites
• How to Deal With Feeling Obliged During the Festive Season
• The Pandemic Will Teach Us to Be More Boundaried
• Protecting a loved one from the wrong crowd
• Boundaries regulate our inner narcissist
• How To Say No: 12 Phrases & Scripts That Won’t Make the Sky Fall Down
• Querying Actions Not Matching Words Isn’t About Trust Issues
• I Am Not Invisible
• Advice Wednesday: Should I Cut Off The Friend Who Keeps Trying To Make Me Look Bad?
• Advice Wednesday: I Tried To Rescue Him From His Unfair Open Relationship & He Went Back To Her
• Some People Can’t Handle Exceptions
• Advice Wednesday: My Gentlemanly Boyfriend Is A Porn Addict With Questionable Tastes
• Advice Wednesday: How Do I Deal With My Husband’s Disrespectful Behaviour When He Keeps Denying It?
• Advice Wednesday: Do I Have Problems That I Can’t Admit To Or Am I Being Manipulated?
• Don’t Be The Bridge Between Someone’s Old & New Relationship
• Don’t Opt For Social Proof Over Your Own Assessment of Someone
• Advice Wednesday: Should I warn other newcomers about his behaviour?
• Forgiveness Made Simpler
• Advice Wednesday: My boyfriend is still married to two women–what should I do?
• Advice Wednesday #6: My Husband’s Adult Children Keep Rejecting Me & He Took Off His Ring To Appease His Ex-Wife
• We Need To Talk About Narcissists: 20 Mindset Shifts To Help You Stop Crazy-Making Yourself
• The Reset Button and Just Move On and Fuggedaboudit
• Um, *Why* Are You Telling Me This? [When Exes & ‘Friends’ Tell You Stuff You *Really* Don’t Need To Know]
• Why Me and Not Them?
• Dealing With Drainers – the folk who Dump & Charge Up
• Good fences make good neighbours. Respond instead of reacting.
• If they lie to themselves, why are they going to be honest with us?
• Super Late: How we treat time says a lot about how much we respect other people’s time
• “No one will love you better” – what the what now?
• Set The Standard
• We must stop caring too much for those who care too little for us
• We need to talk about “selfish”
• Admit The Cover-Up & Stop Overcompensating
• Dodging People’s Projections: It’s Not About Us. Really.
• If They Won’t Cosign To The Truth, It Doesn’t Invalidate It
• Snooping Never Leads To Anything Good
• Sometimes, you just don’t have anymore energy left to explain why you’re stepping back (especially when they actually know why)
• Just Because You’ve Agreed To Something Previously, It Doesn’t Mean That You ‘Should’ Do So Again
• When they collect friendships with exes, get out of the harem!
• Moving past ambiguous situations: It’s OK to take a step back when they say that they’re not interested
• Buffers: When You’re The One That They Turn To When They’re Unhappy With Their Current Relationship
• Don’t disregard early warning signs or your gut instincts as negative or judgmental – this information is useful!
• When someone’s imposing something on you, they’re trying to remove your choice (and overstepping your boundaries)
• Some people hover just below your boundary line
• The more assumptions you make, the more misunderstandings you have to deal with (Mo’ Assumptions, Mo’ Problems)
• Being loyal is a great quality – don’t mix it up with servitude
• How our perceived entitlement to what we want is keeping us stuck and why we need to challenge what we believe we’re owed
• If You Can’t Be Casual About Casual Sex, It’s Not Casual Sex
• When you’re met with the You’re The First / You’re The Only One With A Problem defense
• Telling people what we think they want to hear leads to resentment on all sides
• The Only People Who Take Issue With You Having Boundaries Are the Ones Who Need Your Boundaries the Most
• Drip-Feeding: When you get the truth (or lies) in installments
• How to know when to say no (AKA How to dodge The Disappointment Cycle & getting tangled up in guilt)
• Sometimes persistence is boundary busting pestering
• When someone wants you to devalue yourself in a relationship based on their previous experiences with somebody else
• Being ‘super busy’ isn’t a justifiable reason for accepting crumbs and mistreatment
• Stop letting December stress you out! It’s JUST Christmas!
• Do you have an Overactive Guilt Thyroid? Why it’s time to lose the misplaced sense of obligation over birthday greetings to exes, text replies etc
• Don’t try to get romantic partners to step in as parental replacements. It will only lead to pain.
• Be careful of worrying too much about having ‘overreacted’ to a lie
• When someone blanks you / disappears & then reappears to ask a favour of you, it’s OK to say no
• There’s a big difference between giving the benefit of the doubt and giving the benefit of magic eraser
• We can’t always recognise potential issues – it’s just important to have an active response as they unfold
• Sometimes a ‘hard NO’ is the only option you’ve got
• Why it’s time to stop telling people what they want to hear (or what we *think* they want to hear)
• Faux empathy and backdated empathy: When it feels like you’ve been ‘jacked’
• Blame Is a Decision: Make Sure You Sanity Check Your Decision to Absorb All the Blame
• Don’t become an indispensable doormat in order to ‘keep’ a relationship
• Do not engage: why we don’t have to keep riding the same train to destination unhappiness
• Revisited: Behind every excuse lies the real reason
• When we’re afraid of upsetting someone by calling them out on something
• Even if you have a positive attitude, you still won’t be capable of Jedi mind tricking people into being and doing what you want
• When we’re stuck on the hurt after confiding in somebody who proves to be untrustworthy & why we sometimes confide to preserve a fantasy that keeps us ‘safe’
• Why telling ‘little lies’ can end up mattering in a big way
• The importance of having ‘stranger awareness’ – don’t let people pretend that they know you better than they do!
• Don’t build your self-esteem ‘house’ from straw or sticks
• Is it love? Or is it glorification? Stop pumping them up & take down that pedestal!
• Criticism isn’t the same as rejection. Yes, really.
• Since when did personal space become such a ‘bad’ thing? It’s OK to need some breathing room to deal with something!
• Sometimes a Discussion Doesn’t Cut It. Stop Discussing; Get to Flushing!
• The People-Pleasing Diet: Why You’ve Got to Give Up Trying to Please the Unpleasables
• If someone has truly changed, there’s growth and a change in their habits
• You’re not going to crazy-make me! Why I won’t be making sense out of nonsense and you shouldn’t either!
• Saying NO doesn’t mean that you’re screwing someone over
• Sometimes we’ve got to do remorse on our own time
• The Circle of Trust – Do you know who’s in yours & why? Are you even inside your own circle?
• Revisited: The Truth About Intentions
• Being Honest Isn’t An Automatic Precursor To Compliance
• The BS Diet: Natural Consequences & Why You Need To Stop The Big Cover-Up
• Your Situation May Feel ‘Unique’ But Really, It’s Not Unique In Literally Being the Only One of Its Kind
• You ARE Allowed to Have Boundaries With Family
• What’s the problem with saying NO? When you have negative associations with NO
• Am I Being Used? Recognising When You’re Being Taken For a Ride… Possibly Literally…
• Sometimes You’ve Got To Reteach People What To Expect From You
• If you feel bad after you ‘help’, it probably wasn’t ‘helping’ (Why it’s good to stay out of Other People’s Business)
• Your Frustrations With Others Provides Insight Into Where You May Need To Adapt
• If You’re Going To Argue or Tell Someone About Themselves, Don’t Do It By Text or Email
• I want to be liked but I don’t want to be liked THAT much: Why you’re just not THAT desperate to be liked
• The Trouble With Lying & Cheating (Why you need to stick to a low BS diet)
• Just Because Someone Says Something, It Doesn’t Make It So (Don’t let them use BS to blame you)
• Boundaries: Stop Asking For Permission!
• When You Feel Under Pressure From Family To ‘Forget’ a Drama Just In Time For The Holidays
• If You’re Being What You Think Is a ‘Good’ Girlfriend/Boyfriend, Are You Actually Being You?
• When You Think Somebody’s Mad At You… Even When You Haven’t Done Anything
• It’s What Comes After The “But…” That Counts
• How Having a “Tell” Can Give Someone The Impression That You’ll Tolerate Their Behaviour Or Issues
• Are You Being ‘Too Sensitive’?
• Honesty’s Got To Cut Both Ways
• “I can’t believe they’ve changed – What’s wrong with me?”
• Are You Being ‘Nice’ & Passive To ‘Win’ a Relationship? Why Losing The Hidden Agenda Will Let You Be You
• Sometimes Embarrassment / Shame Stops A Person From Making Attempts To Remedy A Situation Or Get In Touch
• Are You Dealing With A ‘Chopper’? When Somebody Keeps Trying To Cut You Down
• Don’t Let Empathising With Circumstance Turn You Into An Emotional Airbag
• Are You An Over-Giver? People Who Give Too Much
• “If It Were Me, I’d….”: When You’re Perplexed by People Not Acting as You Would
• Do I Have A Sign On My Forehead Or Something? NO, It’s The Time Of Day Principle
• Why It’s Time to Stop Seeking Validation. People Just Aren’t That Objective!
• Exercising Your Right To Say NO & Having Boundaries Isn’t Immature
• Do You Really Need To Investigate What Someone’s Intentions Were Or Prove That You’re ‘Right’?
• NO Isn’t A Dirty Word
• How Attempting To Get The Wedding Dress I Paid For Gave Me A Crash Course In Shady Relationships
• You Just Don’t Have That Kind Of Power: You Haven’t ‘Made’ Someone Be Or Do Something
• Which Do You Prefer – The Problem or The Solution?
• The Truth About Porkies: Are you comfortable with being lied to?
• When They’re Not Over Their Ex: A Lesson In Empathy
• Are you drowning in detail? The importance of heeding the ‘topline data’ of your relationship
• In the Line of Fire: Are you getting carried away with policing your boundaries?
• What’s Your Limit? Deal Breakers and the Importance of Listening to Your Shame Alarm.
• Stop Pumping Them Up! They’re Really Just Not That Special!
• It’s JUST Christmas/The Holidays – Stay off the Relationship/Drama Crack
• Those Who Doth Protest Too Much: Stop ‘advertising’ and just ‘be’
• The Futility of Pursuing the Last Word
• Don’t Let Excuses Keep You in an Unavailable or Shady Relationship
• Stop Explaining. Stop Justifying. Stop Talking. Boundaries are Upheld With Action
• The Broken Windows Theory Applied to Boundaries & Self-Esteem: Time to fix your window(s)!
• Overused Word Alert: Let’s Talk About Being ‘Needy’
• Why Explaining & Re-explaining Disrespect is Like Saying “I’m open to negotiating on my boundaries”
• Learning To Trust Again: You’ve Got To ‘Put Out’ Some Trust & Then Adjust Accordingly
• Sometimes ‘Sorry’ means ‘Hurry the hell up & accept my apology so I can stop feeling bad about it’
• Why You Need To Drop The ‘But nobody’s perfect! We all have baggage!’ Argument
• They’re Just Not THAT Special and Why Putting People On Pedestals Makes Them Think They Can Do Better Than YOU
• Why You Need To Drop Convincing Out of Your Relationships
• Having Their Cake and Eating It Too: Why It’s Best Not To Give Out The Cake In The First Place
• There’s No Tipping Point of Loving, Giving, & Doing Enough To ‘Win’ People Over
• Jedi mind tricks – Why we’ve got to stop claiming force & influence over other people’s actions
• What’s your relationship deal breaker?
• The BS Diet – Why you need to stop denying, minimising, and rationalising
• The Ruse: Lying but claiming they can prove it’s the truth
• It’s Just Cake: Why you should be careful of reading too much into things
• I Believe In Being Honest…As Long as It’s What I Want to Hear: Can you handle the truth?
• Pushing Your Mental Flush Handle Lets You Have Better Boundaries
• Understanding Code Red and Amber behaviour in Relationships
• Advice: Help! Is it wrong to have expected my ex to set some boundaries with his interfering female friends & family?
• Is It Time To Go On a BS Diet?
• Understanding The Levels of Boundaries and Discomfort – Working Your Way From Low-Level to Dangerous
• Overcoming Your Fear of Having Standards in Your Relationships
• Walking Through Your Relationship and Observing & Acknowledging The Signs You Missed First Time Around
• To Tell The Truth: The Frustration of Dealing With Someone Who Lies About Your Relationship Or Their Contribution
• How Bad Do Things Have To Get?
• 12 Core Boundaries To Live By in Life, Dating, & Relationships
• Telling Them All About Themselves – Why It’s Not Your Job To List Their Flaws and Crimes
• When You Experience Conflict In Your Friendships Because Of New Boundaries
• Getting Real About Recognising Inappropriate Relationship Behaviour: He Doesn’t Need To Cheat (or Beat) To Be An Assclown
• Am I Involved With an Assclown? How To Spot Someone Who Means You & the Relationship No Good
• How Important Is It For You To Be The Good Girl?
• Stripping the Excuse Out of the Excuses in Dating & Relationships
• Boundaries in Relationships: Understanding Your Personal Electric Fence
• New Video: When You Try To Demonstrate Your Love But They Interpret a Lack of Self-Love
• Love Lessons: When You Can’t or Won’t Ask Questions of the Man You’re Dating/in a Relationship With (P1)
• Offloading The Fairy Tale Of Turning a Cockroach into a Frog into a Prince (P1)
• When Someone Keeps Pressing the Reset Button on their Behaviour in Relationships
• The Outrageous Principle: When Someone Tests You to See How Much They Can Get Away With
• Reader Question: What do you mean we teach people how to treat us in relationships?
• Does my ex Mr Unavailable or assclown miss me?
• Overthinking What Men Say & Do: Applying meaning where there is no meaning
• Dropping the illusion of words to be action focused in your relationships
• Finance & Romance Do Not Mix. Ain’t nothin’ going on but the rent!
• He Doesn’t Have to Say It’s Over for It to Be Over
• Are you a Responsibility Dodger or a ‘But Girl’ caught in your own ‘Relationship Insanity’?
• Why you shouldn’t wait for him to make a decision about you
• 10 Fundamental Lessons on Boundaries in Relationships Part 3
• 10 Fundamental Lessons on Boundaries in Relationships Part 2
• 10 Fundamental Lessons on Boundaries in Relationships Part 1
• Building Boundaries for Healthier Relationships
• Do you have boundaries in your relationships?
• Shades of Grey: Rationalising Your Involvement in a Poor Relationship
• Reader Question: Is it normal to want revenge on my married assclown?
• Relationship Advice: My boyfriend wants me to take part in a threesome – help!
• Would you tell your friend that her boyfriend/husband is cheating?
• Guest Post: Don’t Envy The “Other” Women Who End Up With Mr Unavailable. It could be karma…
• Guest post: You gotta have friends and you gotta have respect
• Knowing When To Stand Your Ground
• Good Things Don’t Feel Bad and Getting Into Reality
• Guest Post: You Are Not Worth My Time!! How To Know When To Ditch That Guy
• The Justifying Zone: when a woman needs to justify her emotional or sexual investment
• Advice: He had his dating profile active and we’re in a relationship
• Revealing Your Past
• Advice: How do I deal with my abusive boyfriend?
• ‘I Can Change Him’ Syndrome/Fixer Uppers
• Is it so hard to join the sisterhood?
• Guest Post: Women Who Don’t Leave
• When You’re Accused of Cheating
• Having Standards in Dating and Relationships
• Should You Confront The Other Woman?
• Stop Giving To Men That Don’t Deserve or Want It
• Playing Games in Relationships
• Signs You May Have an Abusive Boyfriend
• What type of bitching are you indulging in?
• Challenging Your Role of Being The Other Woman
• Getting to a Happier and More Self-Fulfilled You: Learn to Say No
• Open Your Eyes
• Get Real About Being ‘Nice’ in Relationships
• The Givers, Or Over-Givers
• Other Peoples Standards: When Friends and Family Project Their Fears
• Red Flags and Knowing When to Bail
• Mistakes Women Make With Men
• We’re Hearing But We’re Not Listening: Turn On the BS Meter
• Stop Obsessing over How Men Communicate
• Drawing the Line: Cheating is Cheating
• Dog In a Manger – When they don’t want you but don’t want anyone else to want you either

Breakups

• No Contact and Worried About Bumping Into Your Ex? Read This
• Healing Heartbreak: The Power of Acknowledging Your Role with Compassion
• Breakups Are Often Catalysts For Self-Discovery… If We Pay Attention
• 11 Signs You’re in the Wrong Relationship and That It’s Time to Break Up
• Does falling off the No Contact wagon mean starting over from scratch?
• Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement
• Tips: How to Break up With a Lovely Person
• We don’t want to do the hard thing, but we do want the freedom it offers
• Blindsided With a Breakup: What to Do When You Can’t Get Answers
• How To Tell Someone You’re Not Interested Without Ghosting
• People Pleasing & Breaking Up With Dignity Are Mutually Exclusive
• Advice Wednesday: What do I do now that I’ve fallen off the No Contact wagon?
• What’s the Craic With Ghosting? (And no, it’s NOT the same as No Contact!)
• 5 Irrational Fears & Beliefs About No Contact
• Recovering from somebody doing a U-turn on their feelings or proclaimed intentions
• Did they just do a U-turn? When a person overestimates their level of interest or capacity for commitment
• Understanding why an ex is spreading misinformation about you (or building a case against you to break up)
• Are negative associations undermining your post-breakup and No Contact efforts?
• Needing to go No Contact isn’t about being a ‘bad person’, ‘immaturity’, or ‘punishment’
• Excerpt from The No Contact Rule: Dealing with ‘occasions’ like birthdays post-breakup
• Revisited: After The Breakup – Hold tight to your self-respect & stop trying to be friends with the ex that mistreated you!
• It’s Not A Waste – An excerpt from The No Contact Rule (2nd edition)
• When You Wonder Why They Stay With You Or Keep Coming Back When They Don’t Want The Relationship You Want
• You Don’t Have To Gain Agreement Or Acknowledgment In Order To Let Go & Move On
• 10 Thoughts For The Weekend On… Breakups. Remember – It’s Broken, You’re Not
• “I Miss You” Doesn’t Equal “I Want To Be With You” Or “We’re Getting Back Together”
• When Your Ex Returns AGAIN, It’s An Opportunity To Do Right By You
• Let The Breakup Bonfire Burn – You Can Control How Much More Pain You Experience Post Breakup
• Be a Very Good Friend to You First & Other Thoughts on Being Friends With Your Ex
• You Can’t Erase An Ex From Your Mind…But You Can Reduce Their Power AND Keep Pushing Forward
• Are You Being Used As A Confidence Booster To Launch Your Ex Into Their Next Relationship?
• No Contact: Why you need to keep your proverbial door closed…even when they try to break it down by any means necessary
• When They Come Back Claiming That They’ve Changed…But Have They?
• Dealing With Happy Birthdays and Big Occasions: To Send a Card or Text…Or Not To Send, That Is The Question
• Why You Should Imagine Yourself As Cool, Calm, & Confident When You Deal With Awkward Situations Like Bumping Into an Ex
• You Don’t Have To Hate Someone Or Be Out of Love To Break Up
• Happy One Day, Chopped the Next: When They Break Up and Vanish
• Is There A Difference Between Disappearing and No Contact?
• Miss You, Miss You, Oops, But I’m Not Getting Back With You: When Your Ex Says They Miss You But You’re Still Broken Up
• 10 Essential Breakup Boundaries
• Post Breakup: To Debrief Or Not To Debrief, That Is The Relationship Question
• After The Breakup: Do You Need To De-friend Your Ex on Facebook? Dealing With Your Ex’s and Obsessions
• Why Is He Calling Me? What type of vibes am I giving off?
• Mini Video: Don’t Allow Exes to Keep a Foothold in Your Life or Demote You to Booty Call
• A Tale of Making The Mistake of Being Friends With An Ex Mr Unavailable (Yes the Fire Still Burns)
• Suck It and See To Kill Off Curiosity and Get Out of Relationship Groundhog Day
• Should I Give Him A Second Chance? Or a 3rd, 4th, 20th?
• So…What is he thinking when he keeps making contact or tries to get back together?
• Resisting the Temptation of Making Contact With An Ex at Christmas
• Can you stay friends with Mr Unavailables & Assclowns after you break up?- Part Three
• Can you stay friends with Mr Unavailables & Assclowns after you break up? Part Two
• Can you stay friends with Mr Unavailables & Assclowns after you break up?- Part One
• Getting back with your ex when the reason for the breakup hasn’t changed
• Reader Question: How do I stick to No Contact when we have kids?
• Reader Advice: Help me understand my commitment-phobic obsessive ex!
• The Big Question: Will he try to get in contact with me?
• Shades of Grey: Contact is Contact, Emotionally Unavailable is Emotionally Unavailable
• How To Lose An Assclown in 90 Days Excerpt: The Trap of Compassion & Projection with Assclowns
• Relationship Advice: Should I cut contact, try out a new guy, or be alone?
• The No Contact Rule Really Does Work Reader Success Story
• 10 Truths You Need to Accept About Breaking Up: Part 2
• 10 Truths You Need to Accept About Breaking Up: Part 1
• Why you will always be a Yo-Yo Girl if you don’t maintain the No Contact Rule
• Relationship Advice: How can I keep up the no contact rule with my guy at work?
• Relationship Advice: I cut contact, then I slept with him, and now HE’S cut contact with me!
• Relationship Advice: I cut contact with him but I don’t want him to be angry or hate me.
• Relationship advice: I feel guilty about the No Contact Rule. Is it morally wrong to disregard someone without explanation?
• Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Commandment 10: Thou must close the door and move forward
• Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Commandment 9: Thou mustn’t give up on love
• Coping With and Moving On After a Break Up Commandment 8: Thou need to get a life
• Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Commandment 7: Thou shalt forgive…but thou shouldn’t forget..but don’t cling…
• Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Commandment 6: Thou shalt understand WHY and do something with the knowledge
• Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Commandment 5: Thou shalt be accountable
• Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Commandment 4: Thou shalt stop doubting yourself and get angry
• Coping With and Moving On After a Break Up Commandment 3: Thou shalt stop fearing the pain of breaking up and confront it
• Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Commandment 2: Thou Shalt Not Obsess
• The Ten Commandments of Coping With and Moving On After a Breakup Series
• Relationship advice: Should I take my cheating boyfriend back?
• The No Contact Rule: The Get Out Plan
• Coping with breakup drama in the workplace
• Did I chase or scare him away?
• Advice: What’s the difference between emotionally unavailable and he just wants to break up?
• Breaking Up and Moving On By Cutting Contact. Part 3
• Breaking Up and Moving On By Cutting Contact. Part 2
• Breaking Up and Moving On By Cutting Contact. Part 1
• Advice: Help! I’m a Yo-Yo Girl who feels bad for ending my Boomerang Relationship
• Advice: Is he returning because he loves me or am I the Fallback Girl?
• Can’t We Just Be Friends?
• Why You Shouldn’t Confront Your Ex
• Advice: Should I Confront My Ex?
• Advice – Should I let a sleeping ex dog lie?
• The No Contact Rule
• Breaking Up With and Getting Over a Married/Attached Man
• The Lazy Breakup via Text, Email and Instant Messenger
• The 10 Commandments of Breaking Up
• Breaking Up With and Getting Over a Married Man/Attached Man
• Rekindling Relationships: To light or put out the old flame
• Breaking Up a Bad Friendship
• Guest Post: What Not to Do When You Get Dumped
• How do men cope with being dumped?
• Sex With the Ex
• Vixen’s Guide to: Letting Him Down Gently
• What Not to Do When You Get Dumped
• Being Friends With an Ex
• This Girl’s Perspective on Getting Dumped…
• Closure: How to Know When You’re Ready to Move On
• Recrudesce: Running into Your Ex
• Guest Post: After The Breakup – Moving Onto Bigger & Better Things

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