List of Posts (cont.)

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Relationships 

• About Ignoring Discomfort and Needs Because We’re Hoping They’re the One
• Even if You’re the Strong One, You Need Help and Support Too
• The True Purpose of Having Standards: Guiding You, Not Controlling Your Relationships
• Love Because You Feel Good About Yourself, Not To Fill Voids
• Why the 50:50 Mentality Falls Short in Romantic Relationships
• The Blame Trap Only Ends Up Helping Shady People
• ‘Keeping the Peace’ Just Might Be Hurting Your Emotional Wellbeing
• We Need to Be Investors, Not Bailiffs, In Our Relationships
• Our Intimate Relationships Require More Honesty and Emotional Availability
• Our Intimate Relationships Require Us To Commit To Showing Up
• For Our Relationships to Be Intimate and Fulfilling, They Need Progress
• You Can Move From Codependence to Interdependence for Healthier, Intimate Relationships
• Ownership (Integrity, Maturity and Responsibility) is Vital to Healthy Relationships
• Having a Positive Outlook Matters in Loving, Intimate Relationships
• Commitment To Self is One of the Keys to Being a Loving Partner
• Healthy, Loving, Intimate Relationships Feature the Landmark of Balance
• Consistency Creates Trust in Ourselves and Our Relationships
• What Does It Mean to Be Emotionally Available?
• Will It Be A Debit or Credit from Your Trust Account?
• Beyond Who’s Right and Winning: Building Respect in Love
• Be What You Seek
• Casual Isn’t Always Cool: Know Your Boundaries in Ambiguous Relationships
• Fulfilling Relationships Need the Shared Intent of Core Values
• What It Means to Trust Someone
• Power or Partnership? Loving Relationships Have Co-Pilots
• How To Cultivate and Promote Respect in Intimate Relationships
• You Don’t Need to Be Perfect to Have the Relationship You Want
• The Trouble with Pretending You’re Okay with Something When You’re Not
• Giving Love Requires the Emotional Generosity of Empathy and Compassion
• We Don’t Need to Suffer to Prove How Much We Love Someone
• What It Means to Care For Someone
• What It Means to Love Someone
• ‘Getting Along’ Plus Compatibility Equals Intimate, Loving Relationships
• Compatibility is a Prerequisite for Healthy, Loving, Successful Relationships
• If You Want a Loving Relationship, Don’t Settle for Crumbs
• Self-Awareness Trumps Projection for More Intimate, Loving Relationships
• Pretending to Be Something You’re Not Won’t Win You a Relationship
• Feeling Your Feelings is Key to Breaking the Cycle of Codependency
• Breaking Free from Love’s Rule Book: Embracing Authentic Relationships
• The Relationship Pothole of Giving Our Power Away to False Authorities
• Four Core Values for Healthy Romantic Bonds
• Intimate Relationships Need To Be Mutually Fulfilling
• Empathy and Allowing Ourselves to Say No Mustn’t Be Based on Status
• Why We Don’t Leave Painful and Sucky Situations: It’s Due to People Pleasing
• Circular Disagreements and Why We Need to Stop Hoarding Our Resentments
• The 2 Big Reasons We Lose Ourselves in Our Relationships
• Maybe we don’t need to assume that our relationship has lost its spark
• Why do we get upset and offended when people decline our invitation?
• Dealing With Our Resentment Toward a Loved One Creates Healthy Boundaries
• Questioning our complicated ideas about ‘love’ is the loving thing to do
• Wanting Romantic Relationship Status More Than Being a Loving Partner
• Feeling Anxious About Family Obligations and Expectations During the Festive Season? Here are 3 Tips
• Less than speedy text replies from loved ones doesn’t mean we’re being ignored
• Being together 24/7 or sharing all the same interests won’t make a happy relationship
• We don’t need to ‘confess’ our bad relationship experiences to a new partner
• In our intimate relationships, “stable” doesn’t *have* to equal “dull”
• The “give and take” of relationships needs more intimacy and boundaries
• There Really Is No Pleasing Unpleasable People, and That’s Okay
• Why You’re Catching Feelings When It’s Supposed to Be ‘Just’ Casual Sex
• Family Stressing You Out? Check In With Yourself
• Love isn’t making you ‘crazy’; reality-check the relationship
• Believing you’ve put in too much to leave and that to ‘give up’ would be a ‘waste’
• Making sense of people seemingly being unhappy with your happiness
• Parents Believing They ‘Had It Worse’ Makes Empathy Difficult for Them
• Were they ‘just trying to be nice’?
• Wanting to know someone’s intentions
• We don’t need to like or agree with someone to empathise
• Healthy Relationships Don’t Focus On ‘Winning’ and Avoiding ‘Losing’
• About dating when you want children
• They say you’re a ‘couple’, so why doesn’t it feel like that?
• It’s not someone else’s ‘job’ to make us happy
• Superficial relationships signal the need to develop a more intimate relationship with ourselves
• Jumping into relationships and belatedly realising commitment is involved
• If you’re always The Giver, others have to play the role of The Taker
• 3 reasons why playing games in relationships is a bad idea
• Getting to know others involves acknowledging their consistent patterns
• Picking and choosing our battles
• The trouble with blending in
• Why some people try to make you feel bad about being single
• 12 Signs You’re Settling for Crumbs in your Relationships
• Awkward conversations don’t have to be avoided
• This is why that connection isn’t shorthand for “I know you”
• About Voting for the Relationship You Want
• You’re just not *that* intimate: No boundaries, no intimacy
• No more crumbs is a big yes to love, care, trust and respect
• Without integrity in our relationships, we can’t be emotionally available
• Recognising Healthy Interactions and Relationships (There’s a simple way to do it)
• Who’s Parked In Your Relationship Space?
• Our relationships begin before we have even met the person
• Be Careful What You Wish For (Or Raise Your Standards By Wishing For More)
• They Didn’t Change; You Just Got To Know Them
• About Unconditional Love
• There is no ‘job opening’; relationships are co-created.
• Blind Spots Block The Relationship You Want
• “They’re ‘Too Nice’ To Break Up With”
• Ask yourself: Is there a way that I could love myself AND be in the relationship too?
• If None of Their Exes Had A Problem With It, Where Are They Now?
• Does Chemistry Matter When You First Meet Someone?
• There’s a Big Difference Between Interest and Commitment
• Advice Wednesday: 7 Years of Flip-Flapping & Now He’s Proposed. What Should I Do?
• It’s Not That ‘One False Move’ You Made
• We’ve Got To Stop Trying To Recoup Our Sunk Costs In Our Relationships
• Advice Wednesday: He Didn’t Emotionally Support Me When I Lost My Father & Now He’s Done It Again
• Intensity Isn’t The Same As Intimacy
• Advice Wednesday: I Wasn’t Sure About My Boyfriend But Now That I Am, He Just Wants To Be Casual
• It’s Unrealistic For Us To Expect To Be An Expert In Our Interpersonal Relationships
• Advice Wednesday: Should I Worry About His Reluctance To Label Our Relationship?
• Advice Wednesday: Help! I’m Just Not That Into My Mother
• Advice Wednesday: Have I Misunderstood My Ex’s Unavailability?
• Advice Wednesday: Help! I’m a doormat to my best friend
• Advice Wednesday: My Workaholic Boyfriend Doesn’t Have My Back
• Advice Wednesday: He’s separated, we’ve been together for 2 years but he’s super-busy. Help!
• Advice Wednesday: Something doesn’t feel right (& he still had the Plenty of Fish app on his iPad). Help!
• Are you doing the other person’s ‘job’ in your relationships?
• Advice Wednesday #9: Is It Possible To Remain Neutral Between My Feuding Friends?
• Advice Wednesday #7: My Ex Became More Controlling When I stopped Earning. Is Financial Equity Critical To Relationship Success?
• Advice Wednesday #5: My Ex & I Are Very Close (Includes Nude Sleepovers)–Why Does He Sleep With Everyone But Me?
• There’s No Need To Sacrifice You In Your Relationships
• Why We Must Be A Priority & Never An Option
• Advice Wednesday #1: How do I deal with my draining faux friend neighbour?
• No One Wants To Get Left Behind or Passed Over
• Being ‘Friends’ Can Be a Blind Spot In a Romance
• Best Guy/Woman Ever, Best Male Friend…Yeah… They’re Just Not THAT Special
• Faux Obligations With Family & How To Say No To Those Holiday Invites
• It Doesn’t Have To Be So Scary In a New Relationship
• Figuring Out If Your Relationship Has the Landmarks of Being Healthy and Loving
• Sometimes we prefer radio silence over vulnerability
• Is Emotional Unavailability All That Different From Incompatibility?
• We Have To Allow Our Friendships To Evolve
• Is it my issues or am I in the wrong relationship?
• There’s Nothing Wrong With Wanting Love and a Relationship, but the Path We Choose to Achieve Our Desires Has Its Own Consequences
• Future Faking is partly about using intentions to enhance self-image
• Commitment: If they can’t show up for the basics, they won’t be able to show up for the long haul
• What We Deserve Isn’t The Same As What Somebody Will Do
• We can’t keep trying to recapture the beginning of a relationship; we’ve got the present to live in
• Some people habitually jeopardise their relationships in order to feel interest and desire
• Do you want to be in a battle or a relationship?
• Discussion Dodgers: When you try to raise an issue and the person finds fault with your timing or approach instead of addressing the issue at hand
• There’s a cost to leaving but there’s also a cost to staying
• Revisited: Relationships in a Nutshell – Co-pilots & the importance of a joint agenda
• You can’t date or forge a relationship without chipping in – it’s the cost of participation
• Do we really need to keep screwing around with friendship?
• The Quality of Our Relationships *Matter*. Forget Forced, Go Organic
• Revisited: It’s JUST Christmas/The Holidays – Stay off the Relationship/Drama Crack
• “Help! I’m scared of trusting!” Relax! There’s no need to be so ‘tight’ with trust!
• Relationships are 100:100. It’s Tricky To Divide Relationships and People Into Halves.
• Is It Time To Take a Break From Facebook? When Facebook Is ‘In Charge’ Of Your Self-Esteem
• What Learning About The Special Effects in Apollo 13 & Titanic Taught Me About Future Faking, Fantasy Relationships & Why We Get Carried Away
• Why Unhealthy Relationships Are the Equivalent of a Power Struggle
• Dealing with Someone Who Blows Hot and Cold: Is It Worth It?
• Are You Too Eager For The Fairy Tale ‘Ending’? The Returning Childhood ‘Sweetheart’ Revisited
• How Do You Know If You Should Keep Working At A Struggling Or Even Flatlining Relationship?
• Are You Open To Interpretation? Why Healthy Relationships & Happiness Have No Room For Ambiguity
• It’s Time To Stop Playing The Relationship Slot Machine
• When Someone Thinks That It’s Okay To Keep Disappointing You … But Not Others. Er… No It’s Not
• Why Affairs Are Like Being Double-Crossed In A Heist
• Can You Take a Hint? Why Hints Are Clues To What’s Really Up With Your Relationship
• You Can Be in Love On Your Own…But a Mutual Relationship Takes Two
• Disclosing Your Past and Insecurities
• The Dreamer & the Shopper: Have you inadvertently found yourself in a fantasy relationship?
• Excerpt from Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl: Renovators & Florences
• Actions Matching Words in a Nutshell: If You Haven’t Got a Match, You Haven’t Got a Healthy Relationship But You Do Have Problems
• Excerpt from Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl 2nd edition: He Keeps a Foothold in Your Life
• Relationship Amnesia – When you keep forgettting what’s REALLY going on
• The Commitment Is in the Offing Ticking Time Bomb – Why do they back off when you reciprocate?
• Betting On Potential – Are You Gambling On a Relationship Capacity That Doesn’t Exist?
• The Quick Guide To Unavailable Relationships – Including Casual, Rebound, Affairs, Dalliances and Secret Relationships
• Transitionals & Rebound Relationships: What’s on their mind when they’re not over their ex but they’re involved with YOU?
• “There’s no such thing as an honest cheat” and other thoughts on cheating
• Why You’re Nobody’s ‘Option’
• Why You’re Better Than Waiting Around For Someone To Make Up Their Mind or to Spontaneously Combust into Being Available
• Are You Hankering for the Zsa Zsa Zu or Chasing a ‘Feeling’?
• You’re Not Going Crazy: It Doesn’t Matter If They’re Unavailable or Not That Interested
• Rebound Relationships in a Nutshell: Transitionals, Buffers & Why You Should Step Away From The Light When They’re Not Over Their Ex
• More on deal breakers: Knowing what will break your relationship deal…even when you’re crazy about them
• Can you elevator pitch your relationship issues or breakup? The importance of summarising and identifying issues
• Relationships in a Nutshell: Co-pilots, drivers, passengers and the importance of a joint agenda
• Upgrading the Level of Commitment: When commitment schedules conflict
• When You Experience Problems Upgrading Your Commitment
• The Landmarks of Healthy Relationships
• Advice: Where did I go wrong in my secret relationship with a woman that still lives with her ex?
• Casual Relationships: All The Fringe Benefits of a Relationship…Without The Actual Relationship
• Advice: Help! He Disappears, Doesn’t Call, Pops Up Every Fortnight and Gives Me a Magical Time. Is He Unavailable? Er…YEAH
• Make Me Official: The Obsession With Titles in Relationships.
• A Tale of Two Commitment Resistant Birds – Are you hiding your commitment fears behind someone else’s more obvious commitment issues?
• The Transition Phase: From Chasing a Relationship With Unlikely Sources To Dating Decent People and Giving Them a Hard Time
• Hooks: Understanding What THEY Think Hooks You To Them & the Relationship and How This Can Be Exploited
• Unhooking Yourself From the Picture of Your Relationship
• What Hooks You in Your Relationships? Understanding the combination of hooks, picturing & potential
• Why Doesn’t My Emotionally Unavailable Guy/Assclown See a Committed Relationship With Me?
• Guest Post: Marriage Lessons That Can Benefit Any Relationship
• Getting Past The Fault Lines: Relationships are 100:100 Partnership, Not 50:50
• Great Expectations: Are You Expecting Relationship Water From An Empty Relationship Well?
• It Started Out So Great – Why Can’t He Go Back To Being ‘That’ Guy?
• Love Lessons: Getting The Relationship You Expect, Not Every Man is Worth Keeping & More
• Florence Nightingale: Why needing to fix/heal/help in the name of love is unhealthy (P2)
• Florence Nightingale: Why needing to fix/heal/help in the name of love is unhealthy (P1)
• Florence Nightingale: Women That Fix/Heal/Help and Empathy vs Sympathy
• This One Time In Band Camp & Buying Into Their Old Hurt (Part One)
• Get Out of Stuck! Getting Your Power Back In & Out of Relationships (Part 2)
• Get Out of Stuck! Getting Back Power In & Out of Relationships (Part 1)
• Getting Your Wake Up Call: Relationship Epiphanies
• Are you hanging with a solo thinker or a team player in your relationships?
• Terms & Conditions Apply: Reading the Small Print in Dubious Relationships
• Knowing When To Fold: Bad Investments in Relationships & Seeing The Bigger Picture
• The Life Lessons: How relationships teach us more about ourselves
• Knowing If You Feel Good In New Relationships Part Two
• Knowing If You Feel Good In New Relationships Part One
• Your Love Does Not Equal Their Love
• 10 Things You Can Learn About Cheating from the Tiger Woods Saga
• When trust is absent from a relationship, there isn’t a relationship
• Reader Question: How do you teach someone boundaries for a healthy relationship?
• Standing By Your (Broken) Man – Part Three
• Standing By Your (Broken) Man – Part Two
• Standing By Your (Broken) Man – Part One
• Maintaining your position in and out of your relationships – Part Two
• Maintaining your position in and out of your relationships – Part One
• Having too much faith and seeing too much potential in relationships Part Two
• Having too much faith and seeing too much potential in relationships Part One
• Becoming isolated in relationships – Part Three
• Becoming isolated in relationships – Part Two
• Becoming isolated in relationships – Part One
• Getting in the head of Mr Unavailables and Assclowns: If I was that bad, she wouldn’t be with me
• Normalising Bad Behaviour in your Relationships
• When your love gets interpreted as desperation
• What is love and a good relationship?
• Relationships need two committed parties to grow and prosper
• Is it love? Or is it fear, drama and pain?
• Are men really like rubber bands? The Bigger Picture (Part 3)
• Are men really like rubber bands? Understanding retreating (Part Two)
• Mixing Up Optimism, Fear, and Denial in your Relationships – Just DO something
• Relationship Advice: Am I addicted to my lying, cheating ex Mr Unavailable?
• Relationship Advice: Help! I’m not part of his life plan and he wants to move out and sofa surf!
• If he doesn’t end the relationship, why can’t you end the relationship?
• Relationship Advice: What if he’s just not that into me instead of being Mr Unavailable?
• Women Who Talk (& Think) Too Much – Wasting time explaining & discussing with men that don’t want to listen
• Relationship Advice: Should I tell my friend that he’s emotionally unavailable?
• Relationship Advice: Am I right not to go back to my flip-flapping divorcee?
• Relationship advice: I ‘think’ my sister is sleeping with my Mr Unavailable
• Famous Mr Unavailables and Fallback Girls: Sienna Miller
• Famous Mr Unavailables and Fallback Girls: John Mayer
• Guest Post: Emotionally Unavailable Men – Understanding the girl after you
• Reader Question: What does an emotionally unavailable man do when a relationship ends?
• Advice: Help me get away from my drunken, cheating boyfriend
• Positive Woman, Positive Relationship
• Relationship advice: She won’t take a hint. Also, Am I an assclown?
• Relationship Advice: My boyfriend says that I’m ‘Needy’ because I want more. Am I?
• Relationship Advice: I didn’t know that I was the Other Woman. Help!
• Living in Denial with your Relationships
• Do emotionally unavailable men change?
• Relationship Advice Guest Post: Am I wasting my time with my mixed signals guy?
• Relationship Advice: Should I stick by emotionally unavailable army guy?
• Relationship Advice: Help! He’s left his wife but I’m still the Other Woman!
• Relationship Advice: How do I forgive my narcissist ex and my friend for flirting and the private dance?
• Mr Big and Carrie: The most famous Mr Unavailable and Fallback Girl of all time?
• Relationship advice: Why is she the girlfriend and I’m the Fallback Girl/Other Woman?
• Relationship Advice: He’s abusive and possibly a narcissist but I love him. Will he change?
• Relationship Advice: Should I tell my boyfriend that I’ve been cheating on him?
• Betting On Potential in Relationships
• Guest post: But, is he happy?
• Getting real about ‘successful’ relationships
• Being The Other Woman: The Lessons I Learned Part 3
• Being The Other Woman: The Lessons I Learned Part 2
• Being The Other Woman: The Lessons I Learned Part 1
• Advice: Does polygamy work, because I love three women?
• Return On Investment in Relationships
• Are we waiting for a fairy tale happy ending?
• Advice: He’s miserly with his time, money, and himself
• Toxic Friendships
• How To Make Sure Your Relationship Survives Your Best Friend’s Wedding
• Advice: Can He Get Over My Cheating and Trust Me?
• Tips for Meeting Your Boyfriend’s Parents
• 7 Tips for Saying ‘I Love You’
• 5 Quick Tips for Effective Communication Within Your Relationships
• Boomerang Relationships & The Yo-Yo Girl
• Tips for Sending Dirty Emails To Your Lover
• So What is Commitment-Phobia?
• Guest Post: Real Life – I Married a Serial Cheater
• How To Cope With Being The Other Woman
• Saying I Love You First
• Coping With Past Relationships
• Talking Dirty to Your Man (The Starter Edition)
• Conscious Relationships
• 11 Maintenance Tips for a New Relationship
• Advice: Is he cheating? Am I being naive?
• Cheaters: When You’re The Suspicious Girlfriend/Boyfriend – Are They Cheating On Me?
• You Make Your Own Relationship Luck
• Signs He’s Cheating
• Brain Training For Relationships
• 6 Things That Will Piss Off Most Women in a Relationship
• Rules for ‘Honesty’ in Relationships
• Tidy Up Your Love Life
• Five Reasons Men Leave Women They Love
• ADVICE: Help! My landlord is my boyfriend and he charges me more rent than the gardener!
• Being The Other Woman Revisited: It’s straight talking time.
• Guest Post: Raising Our Standards
• 7 Signs That Your Relationship Has Staying Power
• Can I Build a Relationship on Just Sex?
• Honesty In Relationships
• How To Cope With Being The Other Woman
• Ten Key Lessons About Relationships
• NML’s Roughguide to a New Relationship
• Interracial Relationships
• Signs That He’s Cheating – Real Life
• Great Sex Does Not Equal Love
• Female Friendship: When She Can’t Be Happy For You
• Friendship and Sisterhood
• Open-Ended Relationships: When You Think You’ll Get Back Together
• Tips for Good Female Friendships
• Let’s Stop Being Lazy About Communication
• Fixer Upper
• Guest Post: An Emotional Guide for the New Relationship
• Wake Up & Communicate: The Marriage Issue
• Circle of Life
• Living Together: Committed or Trial?
• Can Men & Women Just Be Friends?
• Great Expectations

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