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When Comfort Becomes a Trap: Rethinking How We Soothe Our Emotional Discomfort

by NATALIE | Self

Feeling worse when you experience the onset of certain emotions or feeling as if you’re trying to anaesthetize feelings you’re attempting to repress, or feeling at a loss as to what to do when you need comfort and support, means that, like many of us, you haven’t...

About Ignoring Discomfort and Needs Because We’re Hoping They’re the One

by NATALIE | Relationships

When we’re not used to letting our real selves hang out, voicing our needs, and creating healthy boundaries, it’s not unusual to assume that if we’re really into someone and we have ‘so much in common’, the rest should take of itself. In reality, that’s not how humans...

Healthy Boundaries in Supporting a Partner’s Mental Health

by NATALIE | Boundaries

Supporting a partner who’s struggling with their mental health without becoming anxious, depressed or low ourselves is possible, but it does take clear boundaries and self-care. We can care for our partner as well as for ourselves. ‘Support’ doesn’t mean ‘be the...

Your Breakup or Relationship Status Doesn’t Reflect Your Worth or Identity

by NATALIE | Self

I’ve worked with many clients who feel they’ve failed or are a failure because of a breakup or not being in a relationship yet. This mentality tells me a few things: They see themselves as being 100% responsible for the success of a relationship, so they will go to...

More Authentic Yes is Great for Our Body’s Stress Levels

by NATALIE | Boundaries

When you say yes, but inwardly mean no, you stress your body with the conflict of the lie. Saying and doing one thing and feeling another (people pleasing) from time to time isn’t going to do too much harm, not least because being an occasional (as opposed to frequent...

Creating Healthier Boundaries Lets You Move On and Forgive Yourself

by NATALIE | Healing the Past

Forgiveness isn’t about ‘condoning’ what happened. It’s not an easy pass, complacency or letting ourselves or someone else off the hook, as if to say the alternative is punishment or suitable atonement. Contrary to popular belief, forgiveness doesn’t equate to...

Healing Heartbreak: The Power of Acknowledging Your Role with Compassion

by NATALIE | Breakups

Part of processing the breakup of a painful relationship is talking about what the person did and didn’t do. It’s reminding ourselves of how much they hurt or disappointed us, lest we forget and get sucked into going back. We’re grieving the loss of our relationship....

Unclench Your Trust Fists So You Can Experience More Self-Trust

by NATALIE | Self

Trust begets trust. Your level of trust in others reflects the level of confidence you have in trusting yourself. Saying that no one is trustworthy or being suspicious and sceptical is just a going-round-the-houses way of saying that you don’t trust...

Even if You’re the Strong One, You Need Help and Support Too

by NATALIE | Relationships

Asking for or just straight up needing help and support doesn’t make us weak; it makes us human. Always being the giver or everything having to be transactional where we see people as a means to an end or feel as if we have to earn support first or pay it...

Can Casual Relationships Ever Be Healthy? Yes, Sometimes.

by NATALIE | Dating

Engaging in casual relationships as a booster or something in between a breakup and starting over in a new relationship is highly common. Thanks to dating apps (and sites), cultural shifts in dating and freedom of expression over the last couple of decades, and how...

Why We Feel Shaken and Like We Did a Bad Thing After Asserting Ourselves

by NATALIE | Self

It’s not uncommon, especially when you’re new to creating healthier boundaries through being more honest about who you are, including expressing limits, saying no, or articulating what you need, want and expect, to feel shaken by your assertiveness. You might...
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