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This is a bit off point, but Natalie, your comment about the store clerk chasing after you – I actually had this happen!
I went into a store just to browse quickly. Someone approached me and asked if she could put an outfit together for me to try on. To be honest, I didn’t feel like trying anything on and wanted to go, but I thought I’d indulge her.
She ended up bringing me a few outfits, which were cute, and she and another person in the store seemed to be having fun using me as their doll to dress up.
I needed to think about which items I wanted to get, so I let her know and asked when she worked, so I could possibly come back when she was in the store for the purchase (I thought that would be nice).
I came back to buy a few things (not cheap, by the way), and she then took all but one away from me, saying they were the last in that size and she wasn’t going to sell them to be so I could go re-create her looks elsewhere! It was a really hostile tone and she started saying that it was the equivalent of someone taking legal advice from a lawyer and then refusing to pay. Umm, what?
Sadly my partner walked away as soon as she started going off – not that I needed him to say anything, but it would have been nice if he had stayed to provide moral support.
What?! That is just outrageous that she would treat you that way. She imposed herself upon you, and you humoured her. What she described is nothing close to what happened. It also sounds like your partner feels uncomfortable with conflict, or specifically, uncomfortable with conflict between women… Personally, I would report that incident to the owner of the store, assuming that this woman isn’t the owner. Or, leave a review of the store if they won’t address the issue and apologise.
Hi Natalie,
I’ve been there with whole texting etc.. If it wasn’t for you I would’ve never known about Assclowns! LOL
Seriously, I’m going to make this short but so.. sweet! Two half yrs ago I met someone that gave me the biggest life lesson! Before I met this person I felt I was so strong and had my self worth intact.
I allowed this man to totally shake the core of my life foundation! Yes, that deep. At that time I thought I was going crazy! I came across one of your books Mr. Unavailable and the Fall Back Girl! That changed me in the way I looked at him and myself!
It’s going on four months of no contact. I’ve made several attempts prior to this. I made sure this final move happened before the new year. I wanted to go into this year with a clean slate! I have good and bad days where my mind goes to the positive part of that situationship. But because I know this can happen I just keep moving forward and surround myself with positive people and things.
Thank you so much!
Your sister from across the pond!
Tee
I had a different, but somewhat related experience: Recently, I went on a few dates with a guy I knew superficially from social media. Nothing intimate, just book readings and similar events. On social media, he was very active, and he shared fairly personal details about his life, including family of origin issues. He did all this under his real name, which is something I would never do. He also fawned over women he barely knew quite a bit. These women were often accomplished writers, university professors or the like.
However, despite showing some interest in me in the beginning, he clammed up whenever we met. To me, it seemed impossible to talk to him about any of the personal topics he freely discussed on social media.
It made me sad, and I started doubting myself. Was I so much less valuable, interesting or trustworthy than all these women on social media? Wasn’t I accomplished enough (even if I clearly had more professional success than he did)?
It took me a while to accept that interactions on social media are quite different from interacting in person. I stopped contacting him, because trying to engage with him made me too sad (and he didn’t get in touch with me again, either).