I really do feel for people at this time of year because whether you’re single or attached, you’re absorbing some sort of messaging about the Hallmark drama that is Valentine’s day. If you’re attached, you might be getting your knickers in a twist wondering what to do, where to go and what to buy for the occasion and if you’re single, you could be worrying about your singledom or trying to force yourself into a date with someone just to have someone for the ‘great event’. Either way, if you let it, next Wednesday could become a headache of migraine proportions.
For anybody who enjoys the day, knock yourselves out, but for the rest that don’t, remember what Valentine’s is about. It is a Hallmark commercial holiday that celebrates love. Like Christmas, some of us are in danger of forgetting the sentiment behind the holiday. After all, what’s the point in creating all the drama over the day if you forget to enjoy loving and being loved?
Whilst I’m all up for making someone feel special, there are 364 other days in the year and if you’re in a relationship, you should be making an effort to celebrate your love as often as possible. It doesn’t have to be celebrated in a Hallmark way with a big gesture – a combination of miniature, small, medium and large gestures over the course of the relationship is just fine. Personally I’ll take a man that makes me feel loved every day of the year than someone who rolls out the red carpet of love occasionally.
And if you’re single, I’d focus on a bit of self-love. Celebrate the fact that you love yourself dearly and you’re not spending it with some plonker who isn’t worthy of your time. And if that self-love isn’t that high at the moment, I’d focus on finding some before your lack of it finds you in the arms of someone who might give you a headache for 365 days of the year…
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