Dialog window
GET MY FREE AUDIO SERIES

The Emotional Baggage Sessions

  • Uncover, unpack and declutter the emotional baggage that’s holding you back – in 5 short audio sessions
  • Get to know yourself on a deeper level and learn my simple yet powerful emotional decluttering methods
  • Put healthy boundaries in place and start being more of the person you really are
[convertkit form=3353267]

I respect your privacy and only subscribe you to what you've specifically requested. Unsubscribe at any time.

Baggage Reclaim with Natalie Lue
  • ARTICLES
    • LIST OF POSTS
  • ABOUT
    • PRESS
  • PODCAST
  • COURSES + CLASSES
  • SHOP
  • FREE RESOURCES
  • WORK WITH ME
Select Page
Are You Too Eager For The Fairy Tale ‘Ending’? The Returning Childhood ‘Sweetheart’ Revisited

Are You Too Eager For The Fairy Tale ‘Ending’? The Returning Childhood ‘Sweetheart’ Revisited

by NATALIE | Relationships

; Back in 2009, following what at the time I considered to be an alarming number of emails and comments from readers who had been burned by an ex that had contacted them via their alumni site or Facebook, I wrote about the trap of the returning childhood...
Happy Birthday To Me: 35 Thoughts On Relationships, Self-esteem and Life

Happy Birthday To Me: 35 Thoughts On Relationships, Self-esteem and Life

by NATALIE | Self

I’m 35 today and as you can see from the photo, I’m still hanging with my bro in Amsterdam who is reminding me of one of my personal commandments to laugh a lot. Thanks for all of the birthday wishes here and on Facebook and here are just 35 of my many...
Be Myself, Don’t Fear NO, Passive Aggression Is a No-No & Other Personal Commandments I Live By

Be Myself, Don’t Fear NO, Passive Aggression Is a No-No & Other Personal Commandments I Live By

by NATALIE | Self

I turn thirty-five on Saturday! All of a sudden, I feel very grown-up, if not slightly panicky, that my thirties are zipping by at high speed. And as readers regularly ask me to share ‘rules’ or ‘principles’ I live by to continue growing my...
It’s Just a Date, Not a Marriage Proposal & 9 Other Thoughts On Dating For The Weekend

It’s Just a Date, Not a Marriage Proposal & 9 Other Thoughts On Dating For The Weekend

by NATALIE | Dating

1. It really is just a date, not a marriage proposal, nor is it the start of your life, your ticket outta ‘here’ or anything else. It’s just a date. I’m not saying that with more dates, time and progression into a bonafide relationship that it...
Maybe I Can Do Better… Are You a Dating & Relationship ‘Surfer’?

Maybe I Can Do Better… Are You a Dating & Relationship ‘Surfer’?

by NATALIE | Dating

This past weekend while I was in New York, I got talking to a guy while waiting to go to the bathroom. He’d spotted that we were tourists because we had shopping bags before 1pm on a Saturday (OK…) and we ended up filling him in on our trip. My friend asked him...
10 Thoughts For The Weekend On… Breakups. Remember – It’s Broken, You’re Not

10 Thoughts For The Weekend On… Breakups. Remember – It’s Broken, You’re Not

by NATALIE | Breakups

1. It’s broken, you’re not. You’re a separate and distinct identity from the relationship, you’re not the relationship itself. The relationship ending doesn’t mean the end of you as a person – you’re still here! It’s...
Are You Trying To Be ‘Good Enough’? Surprise! You’re Already Are.

Are You Trying To Be ‘Good Enough’? Surprise! You’re Already Are.

by NATALIE | Self

In business, particularly in IT, many create products that are good enough to put out there and then evolve them. They start off with simple and possibly even quick designs, launch and then evolve. That is ‘good enough’. You only have to remember the ads...
“If It Were Me, I’d….”: When You’re Perplexed by People Not Acting as You Would

“If It Were Me, I’d….”: When You’re Perplexed by People Not Acting as You Would

by NATALIE | Boundaries

As soon as I hear “If it were me…” or “I’m the type of person that…” when people explain their frustration or even their rationale for making excuses for someone, I internally say “UH OH.” It immediately shows that they are...
Are You Trying To Prevent ‘Unfavourable Outcomes’ & Missing Out On Life Or Ending Up In More Pain?

Are You Trying To Prevent ‘Unfavourable Outcomes’ & Missing Out On Life Or Ending Up In More Pain?

by NATALIE | Healing the Past

One of the things I’ve noticed in life is that we spend a lot of time ‘preventing’ what we feel are the potential for ‘unfavourable outcomes’. What we then discover in hindsight, is that while while working hard to prevent what...
Do I Have A Sign On My Forehead Or Something? NO, It’s The Time Of Day Principle

Do I Have A Sign On My Forehead Or Something? NO, It’s The Time Of Day Principle

by NATALIE | Boundaries

You bump into your ex that you haven’t seen or spoken to for a while. You’ve spent months moving on with your life and are just getting to a place where you’re feeling good about you, are considering dating, and are even feeling confident enough to...
Why It’s Time to Stop Seeking Validation. People Just Aren’t That Objective!

Why It’s Time to Stop Seeking Validation. People Just Aren’t That Objective!

by NATALIE | Boundaries

Whenever I ask people why they persist in seeking validation, whether it’s about who they are, their behaviour, or a situation, they tell me they don’t feel that they could be objective about things. The argument is that their own beliefs might prejudice...
« Older Entries
Next Entries »

I’ve been running Baggage Reclaim since September 2005, and I’ve spent many thousands of hours writing this labour of love. The site has been ad-free the entire time, and it costs hundreds of pounds a month to run it on my own. If what I share here has helped you and you’re in a position to do so, I would love if you could make a donation. Your support is so very much appreciated! Thank you.

Buy me a coffee

ARCHIVES

CATEGORIES

YOUR FAVOURITES

  • Your favorites will be here.

MOST POPULAR POSTS

  • 30 Signs Someone Isn’t Interested or Is Half-Heartedly Interested in You: How to Avoid Being a Passing-Time Candidate
  • When You’re Accused of Cheating
  • Don’t They Care About Me? Didn’t I Mean Something To Them?
  • Why Do They Keep Having Sex With Me If They’re Not Interested or Don’t Want the Relationship I Want?
  • The Big Question: Will he try to get in contact with me?
  • 10 Signs That A Guy Wants You Just For Sex
  • Breaking Up With and Getting Over a Married/Attached Man
  • Overlappers: When they start a new relationship just before your breakup
  • Miss You, Miss You, Oops, But I’m Not Getting Back With You: When Your Ex Says They Miss You But You’re Still Broken Up
  • Letting Go of a Relationship That Doesn’t Exist

Copyright Natalie Lue 2005-2026, All rights reserved. Written and express permission along with credit is needed to reproduce and distribute excerpts or entire pieces of my work.
Follow on Instagram
This error message is only visible to WordPress admins
Error: There is no connected account for the user 17841401907400025, 17841401907400025.

QUICK LINKS

About

Contact

Terms & Conditions

Privacy Policy

Cookie Policy

Get my weekly newsletter

Success!

Subscribe

I respect your privacy and only subscribe you to what you’ve specifically requested. Unsubscribe at any time.

© 2005–2026 Natalie Lue, Baggage Reclaim. All Rights Reserved.

Please do not take content without citation, and you need written permission to republish in full or to share more than a quote. Please do not reproduce any part of this content on social media platforms without crediting me or permission.

Baggage Reclaim is a trading name of LueSim Ltd. Registered no 8939332. Registered in England & Wales. Registered office: Bda Associates Limited Annecy Court, Ferry Works, Summer Road, Thames Ditton, Surrey, England, KT7 0QJ.

Manage Cookie Consent
To provide the best experiences, we use technologies like cookies to store and/or access device information. Consenting to these technologies will allow us to process data such as browsing behaviour or unique IDs on this site. Not consenting or withdrawing consent, may adversely affect certain features and functions.
Functional Always active
The technical storage or access is strictly necessary for the legitimate purpose of enabling the use of a specific service explicitly requested by the subscriber or user, or for the sole purpose of carrying out the transmission of a communication over an electronic communications network.
Preferences
The technical storage or access is necessary for the legitimate purpose of storing preferences that are not requested by the subscriber or user.
Statistics
The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for statistical purposes. The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for anonymous statistical purposes. Without a subpoena, voluntary compliance on the part of your Internet Service Provider, or additional records from a third party, information stored or retrieved for this purpose alone cannot usually be used to identify you.
Marketing
The technical storage or access is required to create user profiles to send advertising, or to track the user on a website or across several websites for similar marketing purposes.
  • Manage options
  • Manage services
  • Manage {vendor_count} vendors
  • Read more about these purposes
View preferences
  • {title}
  • {title}
  • {title}