It’s a bad deal if you have to compromise yourself

Before I was aware of my people-pleasing ways, I would always find a reason to justify compromising myself. It was a “great opportunity” or it seemed “urgent”. Maybe this person could be the “love of my life”. It’s best not to...

Online dating and the fear of ‘ruling people out’

One of the challenges of online dating is knowing when to proceed or cut something short. Spend enough time using dating apps and sites and we’re likely to notice a pattern to the interactions that don’t work or that set off an icky feeling. What I see...