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The True Purpose of Having Standards: Guiding You, Not Controlling Your Relationships

by NATALIE | Relationships

Something I see a lot of confusion around is the purpose of standards. We decide that we have certain standards, and when people behave in ways that don’t reflect these, we get mad at them. We try to persuade, guilt, or shame them into meeting our standards....

Uncovering Hidden Anger is Good for Our Self-Worth and Intimate Relationships

by NATALIE | Self

Here are examples of experiences that cause low self-worth, loneliness, and hidden anger:  Forcing yourself to forget about certain feelings and then forgetting you forgot them. Due to being pushed to your limit by later experiences, the buried feelings poke at you,...

You Don’t Need to Be Perfect to Have the Relationship You Want

by NATALIE | Relationships

Many of us who’ve been involved with emotionally unavailable people don’t realise that we’ve been waiting for the ‘perfect time’, the perfect set of conditions, to have the relationship we want. It’s a twisted form of perfectionism that says that we have to...

Self-care: Feel Better About Yourself with a “What I Did Today” List

by NATALIE | Self

A major source of frustration that saps motivation and drains our confidence is thinking about everything we believe we need to do. We can wind up in a near-constant state of, “Jaysus! I haven’t done enough!”. All the while, we’re not acknowledging and internalising...

Stop Using Perfectionism to Keep Shifting the Goalposts on Your Self-Esteem

by NATALIE | Self

One thing you’re not aware of when you have excessively high standards and, as a result, are pulling down your self-esteem is that you’re not distinguishing between not good enough, good enough, and perfect, hence why you rarely register your progress.When you are on...
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