You’re seeking the feeling, not the thing

Every last thing that humans do is about our attempts to meet our needs. Because how well our needs are being met is communicated via our feelings, they’re emotional needs. There is this tendency for us to attach ourselves to fixed outcomes, goals, markers of...

Needs and wants are not about being worthy and deserving

Central to the story of every struggle that someone has shared with me is the underlying notion that if only they were more worthy and deserving, they would have got what they needed and wanted, or they could be who they truly are. Believing that we are sufficiently...