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There’s Nothing Wrong With Wanting Love and a Relationship, but the Path We Choose to Achieve Our Desires Has Its Own Consequences

I listen to people express their desire for a relationship and romantic love, and a significant portion of them come across as embarrassed and almost apologetic. They feel they have to defend how they feel and what they believe. When confronted with romantic partners...

Don’t conflate common interests with character and shared core values

by NATALIE | Self

It might not feel like a big leap in thinking to assume that someone who shares similar interests to you also shares similar values. In practice, though, it’s an enormous one. It ignores the fact that someone can have a fundamentally different character and set of...

There’s a difference between personality and character

by NATALIE | Self

Earlier this year, I explained how ‘charming’ tends to be a precursor to code red problems. Mistaking charm for being indicative of other characteristics and values is an example of where we fall into the trap of mistaking personality for character, which is...

Revisited: Relationships in a Nutshell – Co-pilots & the importance of a joint agenda

by NATALIE | Relationships

After much observation and plenty of experience, I believe healthy relationships have joint agendas and co-pilots and unhealthy ones have drivers and passengers with solo and hidden agendas. When you recognise the importance of being a co-pilot sans a hidden agenda,...

Toxic Type: Be Careful What You Wish For

by NATALIE | Healing the Past

I hear from a lot of people who are unhappy with exactly the type of person that they wanted or even wished to be with. In fact some are unhappy with the person whom they believed that they needed in order to have the type of feelings or relationship they envisioned....

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There’s Nothing Wrong With Wanting Love and a Relationship, but the Path We Choose to Achieve Our Desires Has Its Own Consequences

Don’t conflate common interests with character and shared core values

There’s a difference between personality and character

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Toxic Type: Be Careful What You Wish For

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