Joan Price is a sexuality advocate with a blog and book about keeping the fires alight in your sex life, even when you’re over sixty. Now before you all pooh, pooh, she actually gives some bloody good advice! Joan is knocking the notion that older women are sexless on the head with her tips, advice and recounting of personal experiences. I suggest that instead of waking up at 60 and trying to work your way back to a sex life, take on some of Joan’s tips and make sure you’re having a good sex life long before you get there!
1. Slo-o-o-w-w down. Yes, it takes longer to warm us up. Fortunately, one of the best things about mid-life and later-life sex is the absence of urgency for our partners, also. They enjoy slow sex as much as we do! Make sex play last hours… or days.
2. Kiss and kiss. Kiss sweetly, passionately, quickly, slowly, contentedly, hungrily, lightly, sloppily. All kinds of kisses help you bond with your partner, warm up, and enjoy the moment.
3. Appreciate, decorate, and celebrate your own and your partner’s bodies. Jewelry, lingerie, feathers, fringe, silk, velvet, massage oil, candlelight–whatever looks good, feels good,
4. Do sexy things together long before you hit the sheets. Dance together. Visit lingerie or sex toy shops. Leave sexy notes in each other’s pockets. Give each other little gifts.
5. Do sexy things on your own to get yourself in the mood. Wear sexy lingerie under your everyday clothes. Work out. Swim. Dance. Fantasize. Write in your journal all the sexy things you want to do together. Spend some time humming with your vibrator.
6. Make love during high energy times. Midnight sex after a romantic meal may work for young folks, but we’re more likely to feel full, bloated, and ready to sleep. Instead, make sex dates in the morning or afternoon. (Why do you think they call it “afternoon delight”?)
7. Explore sex toys and other erotic helpers. Our hormonally challenged bodies may need extra help to reach orgasm these days. Lucky for us that sex toys are easy to find, fun to try, and wow, do they work!
8. Use a silky lubricant. We don’t have the natural moisture we used to, but there are many different lubricants that feel great and bring back the joy of friction. When your partner applies it, it becomes an erotic part of sex play.
9. Enjoy quality snuggle time before, during, and afterwards. Holding each other, feeling the warmth and texture of each other’s skin, is one of the sweetest and sexiest parts of making love.
10. Laugh a lot. Play silly games, invent special words, tease each other, rediscover your childhood together. Laughter is bonding, joyful, ageless–and sexy.
I agree. Why try to fix it after it has gone wrong?! Work on keeping it right.
NML
on 07/08/2006 at 10:19 am
Absololutely. I certainly wouldn’t wait till 60 to discover the joys of good sex!
inside
on 18/03/2007 at 11:05 pm
Lieber grumble!!! hoffe dir gehts gut da in der fremden weite… wenn man dich schon nicht persænlich besuchen kann…
inside
on 18/03/2007 at 11:15 pm
Good job…
Dating
on 26/03/2010 at 2:00 am
Online dating is now very popular. Yes I know there are millions of dating sites and that poses a problem. Type in ‘dating site reviews’ in Google. There are (thankfully) pretty nifty review site.that make that task pretty easy now as some of you already know. When you sign up to a few (yes a few) make sure you give an honest profile.
Nat
on 29/06/2010 at 5:10 am
Been married 40 plus years and it would be just a waste of good sleep time to start having sex. Wife and I hadn’t had really any sex for about 30 some years. I personally don’t need it. Wife has different ideas she believes sex should be enjoyed. I’m in the BAH HUM BUG area. So much effort for so little reward.
My sex tip is forget sex, start taking meds for cholesterol, high blood pressure, ulcers, depression, and sleep problems. All these meds worked for me.
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I agree. Why try to fix it after it has gone wrong?! Work on keeping it right.
Absololutely. I certainly wouldn’t wait till 60 to discover the joys of good sex!
Lieber grumble!!! hoffe dir gehts gut da in der fremden weite… wenn man dich schon nicht persænlich besuchen kann…
Good job…
Online dating is now very popular. Yes I know there are millions of dating sites and that poses a problem. Type in ‘dating site reviews’ in Google. There are (thankfully) pretty nifty review site.that make that task pretty easy now as some of you already know. When you sign up to a few (yes a few) make sure you give an honest profile.
Been married 40 plus years and it would be just a waste of good sleep time to start having sex. Wife and I hadn’t had really any sex for about 30 some years. I personally don’t need it. Wife has different ideas she believes sex should be enjoyed. I’m in the BAH HUM BUG area. So much effort for so little reward.
My sex tip is forget sex, start taking meds for cholesterol, high blood pressure, ulcers, depression, and sleep problems. All these meds worked for me.