In episode 38, I cover:
38: Certain years in our life stand for certain lessons in our life and after turning 39 yesterday, I share what 38 meant for me including stretching my vulnerability.
The vicious cycle of self-criticism: When we’re very self-critical, we feel bad, which makes us more self-critical, which makes us feel even worse and can cause us to spend time around people who reflect our negative beliefs, which creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. | The 8 types of inner critic
Make a date with worry: Rather than letting worry take over, pencil a date and time in the diary for a worry session. Odds are that when it’s time, you won’t feel the same way [about the subject of your worrying].
Listener Question: Should I confront my best friend who seems to be withdrawing and snubbing me? Wendy feels understandably upset but I caution her on jumping to the worst conclusions.
What I Learned This Week: When things didn’t go to plan and my downloaded podcasts didn’t play in the car for my journey, I sang the entire way home instead and learned a valuable reminder about unexpected opportunities for relaxation.
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Happy birthday!!! And to many more 🙂
I hope you had one of those lovely days when everything seems juuuuust right…
X x x
Thank you, Ro! It wasn’t quite one of those days but it was a really good day nonetheless. Xx
July 28 bday NML!!!!
Happy belated- it’s still birthday week!
Thank you for all that you provide here for us on BR. I’m so glad I got to meet you this year. Cheers from the US!
I loved meeting you too and thanks for the birthday wishes! xxx
Happy Birthday NML!
Thanks for always being an inspiration to me and everyone at BR!!
Thank you So_True xx
Hi I just wanted to write and say thanks for this site it’s refreshing that your knowledge is spread from experience.
I have been in a ‘notsurewhattocallit’ with a guy who I met when he was separated in this country and I was lead to believe that he was divorced when he went home to his home country.
I guess stupid me thought maybe this was the start of something and maybe I might end up living in an exotic destination. Of course he was still married seems for whatever reason he is stuck and won’t let her go although she lives here. There were sooo many red flags yet I feel maybe due to vulnerability I still stuck in there with hope.
I know even at my age I need to work on me, I know I have emotional scars from my up bringing and like everyone else I just want to feel happiness. What deeply saddens me is how selfish people can be.
Hi JDS, you’re not stupid at all. You trusted that he wasn’t bullshitting you and for whatever reason–and it’s worth recognising it–you wanted to override concerns stemming from the red flags. Maybe this felt very last chance saloon or you wanted the fairy tale. The most important thing is that you don’t give up on you by selling you short. Yes, people can indeed be selfish but plenty aren’t. You want love and you can be loved but don’t hang around for people who will deceive you in order to get what they want. If anything this experience will help you to recognise what you need and want and to also help you do some more healing work on whatever it is from the past that this relationship tapped on. Hugs.
Makes sense you’re a Cancer – all the nurturing you do, Hope you had a fabulous birthday Pefa
Thanks Pat! I’m a Leo though!